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Lola's Tiger

The reflections and revelations of a first time working mama.

Lola’s Tiger

 

I’m Lola, a Chicago native, with the heart and soul of a southern girl. (I spent my summers and attended college in Mississippi).  I recently became a new wife and first time mother at the age of 37, which shocks me at times, because I was never sure I wanted to be married and was never really into babies. After seeing some of the things that went wrong in my parents marriage, gaining closure on abandonment from my father, becoming secure and confident in who I am (I was a late bloomer), developing patience, learning what I can and can not tolerate in a relationship after a couple close calls – including calling off a wedding 3 weeks before the wedding date *gasp*- I finally decided that I was ready to spend the rest of my life with someone. And here’s the best part: we made a cute little baby boy who one of the ladies at his former daycare dubbed Tiger.

Since then, I have become obsessed with all things baby. The best products, equipment, development, breastfeeding, babywearing, sleep, thrift shopping and selling, etc. (Even the gross stuff like snot, b.m.’s and various other bodily functions.)

I have struggled to find a balance between being the best mom I can be while working full time and trying not to totally let myself go in the process.

I have grappled with the double standard of the roles of men and women as it relates to parenting and the low expectations of fathers in our society.

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Why do fathers get more compliments than mothers for doing the same thing (or less)?

Soooo a brief hiatus while I got acclimated to my new gig quickly turned into about 7 months!  It has beeeeen sooo looong! *New Edition voice.*  (If you don’t know that song, we will never be friends.)

I have been so focused on learning and excelling at a new j-o-b where I don’t have QUITE as much freedom as I did before, mothering, and in the famous words of Grandmaster Flash, “keeping from going under,” that I lost any and all blog inspiration and the words just wouldn’t flow.

I’m back though!

Things that have happened during my blog break: OBVIOUSLY the New Edition 3 part mini series came out and it was AWESOME!!!  DUH!  The Tiger turned 2 and had an amazing birthday party at the Sod Room!  I stopped breastfeeding!  Which was partially sad but also gave me a new lease on life.  But we will discuss that in a separate blog post.  And my office moved into an amazing new building that has the largest LED screen in Chicago in it’s lobby!  It’s pretty cool.  Oh, and your favorite attorney Phaedra finally got caught up in a LIE!  Date rape though?!!  Bye Ms. Parks!

So anyway, what really caused my inspiration to blog again was this:  I’m scrolling thru Facebook, like I often do on Fridays because all the important people aren’t at work, so you don’t have to be QUITE as busy as you are Mon thru Thursday.  And of course I go to stalk my husband’s Facebook page.  Cauuuuse… duh.  He’s fine as hell.  And I see that Continue reading “Why do fathers get more compliments than mothers for doing the same thing (or less)?”

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New blog post coming soon on why I’m still breastfeeding!

 

 

Does your Toddler Eat More Than You?

I am curious – how much does your toddler eat?  I know appetites can vary greatly at this age.  I have a niece who still prefers breast milk over table food.  I know some toddlers who eat an average amount.  And I see some toddlers who are on the higher end of the spectrum – you might even refer to those toddlers as “greedy.”  But is it normal for a toddler to eat damn near more than an adult? Continue reading “Does your Toddler Eat More Than You?”

I Went on a Date

Happy Monday!  I’m coming to you feeling refreshed, renewed and energized!  Now don’t get me wrong, I’m still a proud card carrying member of the I hate Monday’s club.  And this Monday still sucks, it’s just not quite as bad as past Mondays.  Not only did I have an actual date night Saturday, but I also had a day off from everything Sunday!!  IT. WAS. WONDERFUL. Continue reading “I Went on a Date”

THE HONEYMOON PHASE THAT NEVER WAS

Hello!  I’m going on a date tomorrow!!!  Despite the overuse of exclamation points in the previous sentence, this is probably not the most exciting news you have heard recently.  Or ever.  But I’m SUPER PUMPED.  My husband and I have not been out on a date. in. months.  I can actually count on one hand the number of times we have been on a date alone since Tiger was born.  Maybe on one finger.  Tiger is 1 1/2 knocking on 2’s door.  Yep, it’s been a minute. Continue reading “THE HONEYMOON PHASE THAT NEVER WAS”

Tiger’s Day Out with Thomas + I Miss My Weekends!!

Happy Monday y’all!!  I am struggling today.  One of the biggest adjustments for me since becoming a mom has been my WEEKENDS!!  Every Monday I go to work feeling UNrested, UNrefreshed and wishing there was an extra day in the weekend to just sit the hell down and relax.  But if there was an extra day, I would probably still be tired because I would spend it running around with Tiger.  Which I would rather be doing than working – but I would still be unrested which is what I’m complaining about LOL.   ANYHOO – I love spending time with Tiger on Saturday and Sunday – but I’m not going to lie – I miss laying on the couch under a comforter, being a bum and watching mind numbing television for most of the day.   Television – we will meet again in 18 years – I promise.  I’m sure Real Housewives will still be showing marathons in 2034, right??  Continue reading “Tiger’s Day Out with Thomas + I Miss My Weekends!!”

Tiger and the Yeastie Boys

Poor Tiger… as I mentioned in my previous post, he has had a rough couple of weeks.  We noticed recently that whenever it was time to be changed, he cried and fussed way more than normal.  His penis got red, swollen and irritated and there were a few bumps that formed on his scrotum.  At first I though it was a diaper rash, or a side effect of a steroid cream we used to separate a penile adhesion, but I wasn’t sure, so I called his doctor and they told us to bring him in so they could have a look.  His doctor immediately diagnosed him with a yeast infection. Continue reading “Tiger and the Yeastie Boys”

A Perfectly Happy Day with Tiger

I feel like I’m always going on about how hard it is to be a parent and the surprises and unexpected struggles we face daily – but I never really comment on when I have a perfectly happy day with Tiger. One of those days when everything goes right and you bask in the love you have for your little one. I often have these days and thought it would be refreshing to share that side of mommy life. Continue reading “A Perfectly Happy Day with Tiger”

Before and After – It’s Not Just About Weight Loss Anymore

HEY Y’ALL, I’M NOT PERFECT!!! 
There, I have finally admitted it, and now you have the visual evidence to prove it.  I actually laughed out loud as I wrote that because of course, I know that my lack of perfection it is not a news flash to ANYONE.  But for some reason, it’s a big deal for me to admit – that’s why posting this “before and after” pic is so monumental for me.

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